๐ฆ๐๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐๐ป: ๐จ๐ป๐น๐ผ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฆ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ด๐๐ต๐ - ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐
We coveredโฆ
1. Recognize that self-deprecating thoughts are often deeply ingrained neural pathways formed in childhood as a survival mechanism, but they can be rewired with gentle, consistent effort.
2. Notice how when you โput yourself downโ you put your โstatusโ energy down and keeps you stuck in a primitive, black-and-white mindset. Pause and question if these thoughts are absolutely true for you now.
3. Understand that self-deprecating thoughts often stem from trying to fit into a family or environment where you felt unseen or misunderstood, like a kitten raised by ducks. But now you can seek out your true โkinโ who appreciate your unique qualities.
4. Be aware that constantly spinning in self put downs releases stress hormones that tax your physical and emotional health. Choosing to gradually change this pattern, even slightly, gives your body more capacity to heal and connect with others.
5. Interrupt negative self-talk with a humorous โsafe wordโ like Aardvark, or do a simple task you know you can get right. This breaks the perfect wrongness of โI canโt do anything rightโ thinking.
6. Recognize that self-judgment often involves projecting your insecurities onto others. Reality-check these fears by vulnerably asking a trusted friend for feedback, like, โIโm worried Iโm talking too much. Can you let me know if thatโs true?โ
7. Have compassion for your primitive brain that formed these patterns to keep you safe, while also knowing you have the capacity to gently update these beliefs as you grow into new experiences of your worth.
8. Affirm that even if certain people canโt appreciate your worth, it doesnโt mean you are fundamentally unworthy. You have inherent worth and values, even if you havenโt found your โkinโ who reflect that back yet.
9. Build your capacity to tolerate the discomfort of growing beyond your old identity and beliefs about your limits. You can belong and be wanted as you are.
10. Reach out for support through journaling, sharing with safe people, tapping, or other modalities to release the charge of self-negating beliefs and strengthen new neural pathways.
11. Have hope that transformation is possible, even if self-deprecation has been a long-standing pattern. Your brain wants to heal, and by taking small, courageous steps, you make space for positive shifts to occur. You deserve to live from your true worth.
Remember, shifting out of self-deprecation is a gradual process of developing new skills and perspectives. Be patient and kind with yourself as you would a dear friend. With practice, you can unlock the hidden strengths and energy that emerge when youโre not constantly putting yourself down. Youโve got this!
https://www.thrivingnow.center/t/1363/5
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"content": "๐ฆ๐๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฃ๐๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐๐ป: ๐จ๐ป๐น๐ผ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ฆ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ด๐๐ต๐ - ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฝ๐น๐ฎ๐\n\nWe coveredโฆ\n\n1. Recognize that self-deprecating thoughts are often deeply ingrained neural pathways formed in childhood as a survival mechanism, but they can be rewired with gentle, consistent effort.\n\n2. Notice how when you โput yourself downโ you put your โstatusโ energy down and keeps you stuck in a primitive, black-and-white mindset. Pause and question if these thoughts are absolutely true for you now.\n\n3. Understand that self-deprecating thoughts often stem from trying to fit into a family or environment where you felt unseen or misunderstood, like a kitten raised by ducks. But now you can seek out your true โkinโ who appreciate your unique qualities.\n\n4. Be aware that constantly spinning in self put downs releases stress hormones that tax your physical and emotional health. Choosing to gradually change this pattern, even slightly, gives your body more capacity to heal and connect with others.\n\n5. Interrupt negative self-talk with a humorous โsafe wordโ like Aardvark, or do a simple task you know you can get right. This breaks the perfect wrongness of โI canโt do anything rightโ thinking.\n\n6. Recognize that self-judgment often involves projecting your insecurities onto others. Reality-check these fears by vulnerably asking a trusted friend for feedback, like, โIโm worried Iโm talking too much. Can you let me know if thatโs true?โ\n\n7. Have compassion for your primitive brain that formed these patterns to keep you safe, while also knowing you have the capacity to gently update these beliefs as you grow into new experiences of your worth.\n\n8. Affirm that even if certain people canโt appreciate your worth, it doesnโt mean you are fundamentally unworthy. You have inherent worth and values, even if you havenโt found your โkinโ who reflect that back yet.\n\n9. Build your capacity to tolerate the discomfort of growing beyond your old identity and beliefs about your limits. You can belong and be wanted as you are.\n\n10. Reach out for support through journaling, sharing with safe people, tapping, or other modalities to release the charge of self-negating beliefs and strengthen new neural pathways.\n\n11. Have hope that transformation is possible, even if self-deprecation has been a long-standing pattern. Your brain wants to heal, and by taking small, courageous steps, you make space for positive shifts to occur. You deserve to live from your true worth.\n\nRemember, shifting out of self-deprecation is a gradual process of developing new skills and perspectives. Be patient and kind with yourself as you would a dear friend. With practice, you can unlock the hidden strengths and energy that emerge when youโre not constantly putting yourself down. Youโve got this!\n\nhttps://www.thrivingnow.center/t/1363/5\n\n",
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