The Powerful Pause is when we consciously take a break in the action. It gives us a chance to settle the nervous system, come out of fight-flight-freeze, and gain clarity.
The powerful pause respects that the situation and the people involved (especially ourselves!) matter enough to bring our best qualities and real skills to the engagement. We can’t do that if we’re stressed, triggered, overwhelmed, angry, wanting to run, or feeling like we can’t say NO.
If you like using the pause button when watching a video or listening to a recording, you are going to LOVE being able to use the pause in an argument or discussion or when a big decision is needed.
- In the slight “pause” between the stimulus and the response — even if only milliseconds — there is choice. (Meditation and EFT Tapping help to develop that inner pause.)
- When we say, “Stop!” we can frustrate those who need a change or decision right away. “I need a brief pause” says this is important while also allowing us to tend to biological imperatives! If our emotional system is flooded, we cannot think straight.
- People who activate the Powerful Pause feel more free and clear in their decisions. They do less harm to relationships, too, because they learn (the hard way?) that when they are defensive, frustrated, or not feeling understood plowing forward without a break doesn’t result in lasting Agreements that Work.
https://www.thrivingnow.com/concept/powerful-pause
RickThrivingNow / Rick ~ ThrivingNow
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